Bad Dad – Part 3?
So on what is potentially the eve of kid 2.0 I feel, I think and I grok with fullness that which is my first born. Jake.
He’s the definition of a character. Those of you who have met him will testify. He is, in short, a dude.
He ain’t perfect tho’. He’s overly obsessed with technology. A flickering switch, an LCD,an LED. A signal to touch, poke, twiddle. Who knows where he learned that from.
He doesn’t understand the word ‘Gentle’. In Jake terms ‘gentle’ is literally a smack in the face. A well meaning pummel, a poke in the eye with a sharp stick. It isn’t malicious, he just doesn’t get the pain. He doesn’t understand the frustration. He’s just a 2 year old. Why would he?
I keep thinking -” ve must haf se discipline , ve must haf se order” – but why?
He’s happy – we’re happy – he gets tech – we get a smile
Am I a Bad Dad?
j
Up in the Atmosphere 
Sounds so familiar. My techno-boy Josep is now 5 but he went through an extended terrible twos phase that Miabel, our daughter, is just now entering.
All quite normal but yes ze ordnung is necessary imho but you have to explain why repeatedly.
Sticks and carrots.
Statements like: I love you but I dont love it when you (insert bad behaviour item #x) in other words reassurance that “love is in da house” mixed with “no you cant bl**dy do that”